Parenting advice needed

Let her make that choice, Move with you or go out on her own, If she leaves cut her off funding, BUT if she falls you have to get her back on her feet, everyone deserves a 2nd chance just dont tell her that
I am also go through something like this with my daughter right now, I told her if you want to rule the nest you must build it first
 
mikesfastss said:
its his daughter dude don't be a dick.
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Did I say it?? No obviously I have respect and manners, just shocked everyone else here did as well since that's not how the cookie usually crumbles. No man should be living under someone else's roof and not contributing
 
Fuck no, no douche bag BF would be living with me if I had a daughter! That cock sucker better be pre med, about the only way is let him!

Cut her off let her live there, but start charging rent.

Have her pay her own phone bill, insurance, and even 200$ a month rent. 500$ is the douche tags along.
Even at that it is still cheaper than having your own place.
 
Take it easy on Nick-o-lean-a, I would have asked if I didn't know Fred. It's a running theme around here.

As for the daughter, I have no advice. Good luck is my only bit of wisdom.
 
Personally, I'm of the opinion that you can lead a horse to water, but can't make them drink. I'd draw a line in the sand. Explain to her that you love her dearly and want to help her and want to be there for her, but you cannot abide decisions that are as a whole going to lead to a destructive place in life. She will always be welcome in your new home and you'll gladly greet her with a warm bed, warm meal, and a shoulder to cry on. There's really nothing else you can or should do. She has to become a full fledged adult and if that means she makes mistakes, then she will and she will learn from them.
 
stalked_R/T said:
Personally, I'm of the opinion that you can lead a horse to water, but can't make them drink. I'd draw a line in the sand. Explain to her that you love her dearly and want to help her and want to be there for her, but you cannot abide decisions that are as a whole going to lead to a destructive place in life. She will always be welcome in your new home and you'll gladly greet her with a warm bed, warm meal, and a shoulder to cry on. There's really nothing else you can or should do. She has to become a full fledged adult and if that means she makes mistakes, then she will and she will learn from them.
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Perfect
 
stalked_R/T said:
Personally, I'm of the opinion that you can lead a horse to water, but can't make them drink. I'd draw a line in the sand. Explain to her that you love her dearly and want to help her and want to be there for her, but you cannot abide decisions that are as a whole going to lead to a destructive place in life. She will always be welcome in your new home and you'll gladly greet her with a warm bed, warm meal, and a shoulder to cry on. There's really nothing else you can or should do. She has to become a full fledged adult and if that means she makes mistakes, then she will and she will learn from them.
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I agree with this. All I can do is see really where she stands, explain where I stand. I can try to guide her to the right decision, But can't make it for her. One thing for sure is if she don't come the funds will be cut off for sure. She would have the face the real world without daddy's bank account.
One thing I can say is she smart enough not to get pregnant. She knows that is the worst thing she could do, just from talking to her about life plans.
 
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stand your ground dont cave.. Sometimes you gotta let the kid stick their finger in the light socket before they know they're not supposed to..
 
A sharp guy like you already knows whats best to do, even if it hurts at first. Apply a dose of "the way it is" and hold firm.
 
None of this is about "tough love". It's about not bring a contributing factor in poor decision making.

This is just my opinion, but if she is in school full time I'd let her stay.

The Bf I wouldn't allow to stay, given any scenario. This is your home/castle - not a bed/breakfast.

If your daughter wants to live in a 10x10 apartment somewhere I would strongly support that.

The one thing I would make crystal clear to her is that if she gets pregnant you are going to immediately kick her to the curb.

Seriously - otherwise she'll be knocked up in a few months & her & her sketchy bf will be under your roof for years. I've seen this happen numerous times.
 
They/she/he should be paying rent to you. You could bank it and happily hand them the check when they move out, together or not.. Or give your daughter both rents combined and say that half of the money is from the BF...His first time contributing for anything apparently.. :) You want to live with him now or find a female friend to have as a roommate?

A few grand in the bank lets you get started in a rental and gives you a month or two to get your funds situated, ie: what you need vs. what you can afford.
 
Well had are talk today. Basically went how I thought it would. Unfortunately she is to much like her dad.
it sounds like they have some type of plan,but as I can tell not much money to back it up..
I let her know a few thing about I am not going to pay a dime to bail her out if it fails but she by her self can come back then I will help her out.
I also did say why don't you try giving me 700 bucks at then end of the month and see how that works for you.
I would feel alot better if it was some girlfriends that she wanted to move in with then this chump.
at this point she thinks she knows best so all I can do is hope for the best. Diffently took her don, t be a dumb ass and get pregnant. My worst fear
 
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