Ex's SUCK.

LMaggz

LMaggz

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First of all, lemme tell you a little about my ex. We dont have a bad relationship. We arent the typical divorced couple that fights constantly, or talks bad about one another. I try to keep things civil for the sake of my son. Seems to work out. Sometimes a little tooo well, but anyways...

He met this girl last year on the internet, that lived near Grand Rapids. Ive been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. I never considered myself jealous, but I do admit, when he started bringing this chick to my sons wrestling tournaments, I felt a little awkward. That was last March. Since then, her and I have talked, and I've told her that I dont want him back, and made it clear to her the specific reasons why. I know that she is jealous of his relationship with me, and gets angry when I drop my son off over there, and him and I joke around and laugh about old times. I dont do it to piss her off, it just happens. He tells me all the time that he wants me back, and repeatedly Ive told him that its not going to happen. He also tells me that he isnt interested in this new girl, and she more or less "wont leave him alone". Ive heard that line of bs before, and I dont really believe him. Then again, its really none of my business.

I do however feel bad for this girl. Its not my responsibility to tell her that hes using her. On the other hand, if it was happening to me, and I was driving 3 hours to see someone, I would want to know. Thats a whole other story in itself.....

So he comes to drop off money to me today, and asks to take me to dinner next wednesday. Im sure hes aware that wednesday is Valentines Day, a day that I want to spend with someone that I love. Which isnt him. What gives him the right to ask me to dinner? He should be taking this new girl to dinner!! We have been divorced for over 3 years. How do I get this guy to just move on and give up? Is it possible to make someone get over you?
 
Tell him you now have herpes...

Honestly I dont know and is a Fugged up situation especially because you have a son together! I need to think about it more!:wink:
 
Some people just can't let go. Maybe just have a talk with him if you're on good terms and tell him its not going to happen so stop trying. :dontknow:
 
BigWheelinBubba said:
Some people just can't let go. Maybe just have a talk with him if you're on good terms and tell him its not going to happen so stop trying. :dontknow:
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Ive been nice, Ive been a bitch, Ive totally ignored him... I have talked to him and told him that Im sorry things didnt work out and that he just needs to move on. You know the expression "Its like talking to a wall"? Yeah. Well I now know what they REALLY mean. lol
 
LMaggz said:
Ive been nice, Ive been a bitch, Ive totally ignored him... I have talked to him and told him that Im sorry things didnt work out and that he just needs to move on. You know the expression "Its like talking to a wall"? Yeah. Well I now know what they REALLY mean. lol
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Meet him for dinner on Valentines day. Give him a box full of porno mags and a jar of vaseline, maybe he'll get the hint ;)
 
BigWheelinBubba said:
Some people just can't let go. Maybe just have a talk with him if you're on good terms and tell him its not going to happen so stop trying. :dontknow:
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agreed. it sounds like you two have a friendly enough relationship to where you can sit down and reason with him. just tell him "listen, we divorced for a reason. i don't want to be mean, but we will NEVER, ever work out. please stop asking me out. i've moved on, and you need to do the same, for your own sake."
 
BigWheelinBubba said:
Meet him for dinner on Valentines day. Give him a box full of porno mags and a jar of vaseline, maybe he'll get the hint ;)
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Nope. Then he'll expect me to give him a helping hand. :puke: Not gonna do it. No way. *feelin queasy* I know where hes been after I left him. *GAG*
 
LMaggz said:
Nope. Then he'll expect me to give him a helping hand. :puke: Not gonna do it. No way. *feelin queasy* I know where hes been after I left him. *GAG*
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Oh c'mon, very few people are virgins before you get to them.. do you know where the guy you're dating now has been previous to you? You probably don't want to know, but i'm sure he's no virgin.
 
LMaggz said:
Nope. Then he'll expect me to give him a helping hand. :puke: Not gonna do it. No way. *feelin queasy* I know where hes been after I left him. *GAG*
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have a guy friend go over there and put a ring on and introduce him as your fieancy:dontknow:
 
BigWheelinBubba said:
Oh c'mon, very few people are virgins before you get to them.. do you know where the guy you're dating now has been previous to you? You probably don't want to know, but i'm sure he's no virgin.
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I understand what you're saying. The guy Im with now was...um.... yeah he was a whore. My ex was a virgin. Thank god for STD tests. But after the divorce, he went after one of my friends, and I KNOW where shes been. AND what shes HAD. That makes my tummy turn. Dont think thats the only reason why I dont want him back though. Hes a liar, and we fought ALL The time. I just want him to leave me alone.
 
Lon said:
have a guy friend go over there and put a ring on and introduce him as your fieancy:dontknow:
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LOL You confuse me. Have a guy friend go over where? And he knows my boyfriend. :dontknow:
 
pull your pants down and shit in his floor everytime you go over there and he might go away:dontknow:
 
So I guess Im just wondering what has a girl done to you guys that makes you say Whoa. Wait a minute. I really do need to get over this bitch. LOL There has to be at least one guy out there that has been seriously obsessed with getting a girl back. I want to know what made him realize he needs to give up.
 
the ONLY way to solve this is to upfront and honest with him.

INCLUDING the part where you think its wrong the way he is treating his g/f

This is something you must make crystal clear andleave NO ROOM for misinterpretation.
 
Sounds like his challenge is finding another person that better matches his needs. The fun part is if he's obsessed with you, he might not even notice anybody else, regardless of what they have to offer. So I think Wikd's advice is the best so far, and maybe point out that the only drive for your friendship is for your child (but don't be so cold that he tries to turn your son against you either).
 
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