Ex's SUCK.

scotthidley said:
Sounds like his challenge is finding another person that better matches his needs. The fun part is if he's obsessed with you, he might not even notice anybody else, regardless of what they have to offer. So I think Wikd's advice is the best so far, and maybe point out that the only drive for your friendship is for your child (but don't be so cold that he tries to turn your son against you either).
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that is some good shit there^.
 
So guys. Pretty much what you're saying here is that there is no instant turn off? Obviously when I sit down and explain things to him, it only makes him think I want him more. Because in his twisted little head he says "Oh my God. Shes here. Talking to me. SHE SOOO WANTS ME!" So that doesnt work. If Im mean, hes turned on. If I ignore him, hes turned on. If Im nice, well. You get the picture. Great. Im stuck with this giant douche bag. I think I have too much drama. This blows.

scotthidley said:
maybe point out that the only drive for your friendship is for your child (but don't be so cold that he tries to turn your son against you either).
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The chances of him turning my son against me are slim to none. My son is only 7, but is disgusted with his fathers lies and behavior. (he tells me all the time) He doesnt see his son much anyways. Says its because of his hectic hours at work.
 
I think you're kinda stuck. I have a girl that I've tried to be nice to, I've tried being a dick to, I've tried ignoring, I've even said the most hatful shit i could think of, and she still won't leave me alone. Sometimes they just can't get it. There's a chick I was insane about that i dated for 4 months and she was by far the worst g/f you could have short of cheating on me. I would've dropped everything to be back with her for quite some time. I finally realized how much she sucked and got over her. Now imagine if she was a good person like you. Feelings suck and sometimes there's nothing you can do.
 
RBOD said:
I think you're kinda stuck. I have a girl that I've tried to be nice to, I've tried being a dick to, I've tried ignoring, I've even said the most hatful shit i could think of, and she still won't leave me alone. Sometimes they just can't get it. There's a chick I was insane about that i dated for 4 months and she was by far the worst g/f you could have short of cheating on me. I would've dropped everything to be back with her for quite some time. I finally realized how much she sucked and got over her. Now imagine if she was a good person like you. Feelings suck and sometimes there's nothing you can do.
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I thought I've given him enough time. Sheesh. Its been over 3 years. Sometimes hes so oblivious to the fact that Im with someone else, that it causes serious problems with the new guy. If I was single, it would be easier to deal with. Getting out of work and finding flowers in my car is a little much. Asking me to dinner when he knows it is only going to cause problems sucks too.
 
dunno what to tell ya, been in your situation tho

although some of ya might find it hard to believe someone would be clingy to me
 
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LMaggz said:
I thought I've given him enough time. Sheesh. Its been over 3 years. Sometimes hes so oblivious to the fact that Im with someone else, that it causes serious problems with the new guy. If I was single, it would be easier to deal with. Getting out of work and finding flowers in my car is a little much. Asking me to dinner when he knows it is only going to cause problems sucks too.
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Maybe next time he asks you out, respond with "Yeah, that'd be good to take our son out and show him a good time." You could also suggest that you both bring your significant others in cases like that as well.
 
I was going to say that he might just be screwing with you to create drama that he has started with his new chick. After reading this...

LMaggz said:
Getting out of work and finding flowers in my car is a little much. Asking me to dinner when he knows it is only going to cause problems sucks too.
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...I would say the guy is a fucking nut and is probably stalking you to some degree. Leaving flowers inside your car is just weird and I could see how this could effect your current relationship. I mean hell if I was in your BF shoes I would want to wreck this guy.:pow: Since you're in a relationship your only ammo is to degrade him till he feels like a worthless piece of shit and cut short the common courtesy conversations when you see him. This might not do anything but it will at least show him that you're not interested.

If you were single it would be easy, just start hanging around some dirtball he hates and spread rumors.

Good luck with whatever avenue you decide on.
 
I was in this situation with my ex wife. I moved, but you all have a kid together so it's a bit diffrent. When I lived by her she knew I didn't want her, something along the lines of "I don't want your crazy ass you stupid c***" just never got through to her. So I packed up and moved from waterford to sterling heights, then to southfield, then down river. I think it's only a matter of time she tracks me down tho.

Sometimes people just don't get it and they never will. The thought of you being with someone else besides him is probably whats getting to him.
The saying comes to mind "have your cake and eat it too"
 
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