**WELP** Looks like it's my turn... divorce attorney thread

Driven2slow said:
My input, get a female lawyer.
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My dad did that. He got hosed. Adult kids, so custody wasn't an issue... but he lost his ass. My mom's lawyer dug deep and got her a ton of money, half the house, future business revenue, etc, etc...

Meanwhile, my mom is sitting at home with an EASY $100k worth of stuff in the house (crystal, jewelry, silverware, Persian rugs, etc, etc)... and I told my Dad "half of that stuff is yours and should count and be divided in the settlement. If she wants to keep it, she needs to give back some of the cash you're giving her. His lawyer never brought that shit up and he never got anything for it.
 
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Driven2slow said:
She must have not been a good lawyer. You need a savage.

Always assume the worst in people. You might think she wont do anything, but remember that there are people around her that are giving their opinions.
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yeah, I can see that. I don't think my mom was in the viscous mode until her sisters got into her ear and started telling her to go hard after everything. Plus you've got a divorce attorney who sees my dad worth probably 7 figures between the house, the business and the various accounts and that's a big payday for them.
 
Mike, sorry to hear this. Whatever differences of opinion we have, we can agree that this is bad news and there are no winners or losers in this, it is just something you have to get through. The only advice I have is don't post too much on Motown because she might be reading it. I don't know what help I could give you, but I have a big garage on the East Side (not heated unfortunately) in case you end up in an apartment and need to temporarily move some bikes somewhere safe. Just say the word.

-Geoff
 
DetroitStyle said:
If her schedule was different, it would be much easier to figure out.

With the way we worked out our schedules
working opposite shifts, we just slowly but surely drifted apart.
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DetroitStyle said:
Unfortunately, it's probably also why we are where we are...
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The above adds up to the reason, but the motive... Is there someone already in the picture?

Sorry to read. Tough time during the holidays, of all times, to have such a situation.
 
Sorry to hear about this. Best to you and your family. If I can help, let me know. I know a ton of clients in that field.
 
WhiteHawk said:
Mike, sorry to hear this. Whatever differences of opinion we have, we can agree that this is bad news and there are no winners or losers in this, it is just something you have to get through. The only advice I have is don't post too much on Motown because she might be reading it. I don't know what help I could give you, but I have a big garage on the East Side (not heated unfortunately) in case you end up in an apartment and need to temporarily move some bikes somewhere safe. Just say the word.

-Geoff
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Appreciate the sentiment and the offer


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Sorry to hear this. I went through it in 2016 and although hard (and very expensive) it was the best thing I've done in years lol.

You should be able to easily get 50/50 custody if you want it. That's what I did, and we do 1 week on/1 week off with the kids. It's a bit hard on them at first, but once they get used to it, it works out fine.
 
Awe .... Shit , Mike.... well I've been there too.. it really sucks I didn't have kids but its not easy... in the end though it was worth it. Best of luck bud....
 
1. Delete this thread and any online threads about the divorce
2. Divorces are 80% emotion and 20 % business, the sooner you get past the emotion and down to business, the quicker it resolves.
3. The relationship between and a d you wife is like a bell curve, it will be at its worst when you discuss custody.
4. Anything obtained or paid for with marital assets is dividable.
5. Everything is negotiable.. everything.
 
Divorce in Michigan is "no fault", the way it was explained to me. Most of the assets and settlement agreements are hashed out in mediation, so the cases almost never go to trial.

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Sorry to hear this and yes opposite shifts does cause "a big gap" in your relationship. I speak from experience. I worked 3rds when my oldest son was still in diapers and my husband worked days in a group home with other female employees. Well he was "venting to one of them" and next thing ya know she feels sorry for him and then they bumped uglies and wasn't at all subtle about it. I was devastated, he was my highschool sweetheart. I am sorry. I know it doesn't mean much rightnow but in the future someone will just capture your heart again. Best of luck to you!
 
lucky7 said:
Any mention of it via your social media stuff will also be found and used against you.
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I haven't mentioned it on social media. I have mentioned it here and on another forum.

While I certainly feel like this is mostly her fault, I have not said anything untrue or mean spirited, just gave examples of the things that pushed me to this point. We are basically just co-parents right now and have been for a while. Any attempt by me to rekindle a romantic relationship is met with a cold shoulder. It's just dead, she has checked out on our relationship. I think the only reason will fight this is because she realizes that this should go down as joint custody of the children and she doesn't want to "lose them." We are both very involved, loving and caring parents. She cannot picture the kids not being there with her 3-4 days a week and has only continued to go through the motions of marriage because she doesn't want to be apart from the kids.

I have attempted to "get down to business" with her in discussion the potential custody arrangements and what to do with the house and she has told me she isn't prepared to have the conversation. I think she will continue to stall and put this off for as long as possible
 
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DetroitStyle said:
I haven't mentioned it on social media. I have mentioned it here and on another forum.

While I certainly feel like this is mostly her fault, I have not said anything untrue or mean spirited, just gave examples of the things that pushed me to this point. We are basically just co-parents right now and have been for a while. Any attempt by me to rekindle a romantic relationship is met with a cold shoulder. It's just dead, she has checked out on our relationship. I think the only reason will fight this is because she realizes that this should go down as joint custody of the children and she doesn't want to "lose them." We are both very involved, loving and caring parents. She cannot picture the kids not being there with her 3-4 days a week and has only continued to go through the motions of marriage because she doesn't want to be apart from the kids.

I have attempted to "get down to business" with her in discussion the potential custody arrangements and what to do with the house and she has told me she isn't prepared to have the conversation. I think she will continue to stall and put this off for as long as possible
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I think a lot of couples stay together like you & your wife Mike until
the children are of age, "grown up". Not saying you should, not saying
its for everyone, but many times it is the best overall solution for a
otherwise "bad situation". That is of course, if the couple can reasonably
get along.

I wish you & your family the best.
 
4Gas$ said:
I think a lot of couples stay together like you & your wife Mike until
the children are of age, "grown up". Not saying you should, not saying
its for everyone, but many times it is the best overall solution for a
otherwise "bad situation". That is of course, if the couple can reasonably
get along.

I wish you & your family the best.
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Thank you
 
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