Cruel or Reasonable?

My nephew gets mad when he comes over. No vid games at home so he wants to play here. I kick him off and say you have a four wheeler and a dirt bike, go outside!!!
 
ive never had any video games. Ive had a flight simulator for like 6 years and it may have 2 hours of use lol
 
It's up to the parents to set there children's priorities, and make sure they stick to them. In my house there is nothing more important in my children's lives than there schooling. I have pulled the plug on the xbox for months at a time. I've taken the phone, the ipod, not let them do things, whatever it takes because of grades and my knowing that they were not trying there best. And they are well aware that I can and will continue taking until the grades improve. I geuss if it came down to it and I thought it would help, public humiliating would be somewhere on the list, but it's never came close to that.
 
My mom went "on strike" one time when my sister and I were in middle school. We were constantly fighting with each other and weren't doing anything around the house so mom decided to teach us a lesson. When we got off the bus she was waiting at the end of the driveway with her bathrobe on, curlers in her hair, and a picket sign that said "Mom on strike!". The neighbor across the street was there with a video camera to document it. Yes, desperate times call for desperate measures. This certainly got our attention and we realized that the jig was up.
 
You all hear about the elf on the a
Shelf stuff parents are pulling? I think it is so funny and creepy in the same sense. I say put it in a 12 yr old boy's room lol
 
My dad always threatened to do shit like that or wose. Seriously the shit he'd scream at me about, and I wasn't bad compared to the average kid AT ALL, I'd rather have had him beat me. I'm sometimes surprised I'm not messed up mentally because of some of the things BUT on the bright side I saw it as a scare tactic. Well it worked. You know I acted right so he didn't have to come through on any of those threats. Oh well kid. It does suck but not nearly as much as a loser kid growing up without any care in the world about acting right.
 
TWOBEERS said:
It's up to the parents to set there children's priorities, and make sure they stick to them. In my house there is nothing more important in my children's lives than there schooling. I have pulled the plug on the xbox for months at a time. I've taken the phone, the ipod, not let them do things, whatever it takes because of grades and my knowing that they were not trying there best. And they are well aware that I can and will continue taking until the grades improve. I geuss if it came down to it and I thought it would help, public humiliating would be somewhere on the list, but it's never came close to that.
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we do the same in our house, seems to be working so far.

Public humiliation will be a last resort when the issues have become so large i can't possibly get them under controll, but i don't see myself letting them get that far. Consistancy and follow through are key.
 
Don't want to be responsible? Continue to make poor decisions? Pay the consequences. Otherwise...well, our society will continue on with the mindset that socialism is the answer.

It becomes more difficult when you have an all A student who you know simply isn't applying themselves by pulling crap like this. Been there, done that and the fun hasn't even really began yet. It never needed to get to this point (of public humiliation) with us but material items, routines, and activities that were held dearly by her were forfeited until she demonstrated that she realized we weren't playing around and she needed to straighten out. This has been our practice not only on the homework front, but when she needs to realize she as an individual needs to make her own decisions and take responsibility for her actions, which at times means not acting or following along with some of her friends who don't have to live up to the same expectations (you know, the ones that get to keep the PS4 even though they are shit-heads, lol).

BTW, no game systems in the house here.

I don't claim this to be the perfect solution, however it is a congruent one in our house. If someone out there possesses that perfect parenting handbook where it's all spelled out, feel free to enlighten all of us.

Edit; to answer the question; not cruel.
 
hell yea, i was brought up with no game systems and told to go get outside and do something. i dont understand how kids sit inside and look at a tv for 8+ hours everyday. that shit has got to get old.
 
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