Need some advice!!!

[glh_turbo22]

So my wife and I have recently found out she is pregnant with our first child. Of course as soon as she finds out she starts talking about all the things she wants to buy for the babys room and she's already picked out colors and so on. I stated that she should calm down with all that untill we get our house this year and then she can start spending money. So that being said I also suggested that we should sell her little standard cab ranger since it's a little small for someone who is pregnant and she said fine. I found a 97 explorer for a great price that just needed an engine swapped out and it would be a great DD for her. Well of course she flipped when she realized that selling her truck didn't mean she was getting a new car. I told her that for now it would be fine for her to drive till we move into our house cause i didn't want the added debt to affect us getting a loan. I said fine we won't get the explorer, you'll just drive my 2003 F-150 (very dependable) and i'll drive my 82 Mustang till we can afford something better. Nope that doesn't work for her...she wants me to sell her truck, my 82 mustang that i traded my quad for and get her the car she wants. I'm a real gear head and I have to have some kind of a project or something to tinker around with, I already traded my quad for the stang...and if i sell that then there goes my last little bit of my hobby. Am I wrong for what I want to do...am I being selfish?

Thanks in advance.
Kevin

 

[KimKim]

I would never ask a guy to sell his car for me... but then again, I'd never sell my Mustang for a guy. If she is already used to driving a single-cab Ranger, it's not like your asking her to sell a Corvette for a Cobalt.

I'd say you're being reasonable.

 

[tnt665]

You never realize how selfish you are until you have kids. After I had kids, I no longer had free time, toys, money, etc... My mustang hasn't moved in 3 years. Raising kids are the most challenging and frustration situation you will probably ever face. And by far the most rewarding

 

[Stalker]

Yea. I don't think you're out of line for wanting what you do, but you also have to realize that you're as much to blame for her pregnancy as she is. God knows that argument will start flying your way. You got her pregnant, now you will have to sacrifice something to "make up for it". I say the 03 F150 is perfectly fine for her. Once you get into a house, then you can look for a better alternative for her to drive. Trust me, I have enough friends who have gone through this to know that what you think you're gonna need to be able to be mobile with the kid isn't gonna be close to what you are really gonna need.

 

[wikdsvt]

divorce her and keep the mustang.

 

[igotaneed4speed]

Kev,

First off Congrats on the kid on the way!!!!!

Secondly if you let her walk all over you know it will only get worse, put your foot down and tell her to come do a reasonable agreement.
Obviously your doing the right thing by not want to get into payments prior to buying a house, just have to make her see it that way and remove the femal blinders that they all seem to have...

btw goodluck...

Derrick...

 

[mdhmi]

Congrats on the baby.

It's important to be flexible and try to accommodate her, but no one is above driving anything. You need to be a man. She is walking all over you.

 

[Jen]

I don't think that you are being selfish at all. She has a car to drive so I don't think it should be a big deal. With buying a house and having a baby on the way the last thing you need is to have a new car and start making those payments too. I wouldn't sell your car because that's not fair. You have to have a hobby and if you don't you're going to go crazy.

Don't sell the car whatever you do. I would sit down with her and talk to her about it. Talk about your finances and payments and think about how your money situation is going to be like during the next few months to a year.

Oh yeah and make sure you tell her how you feel on the situation because often people not saying how they really feel is a reason why arguments start in the first place :thumbsups

Good luck!

 

[wikdsvt]

I don't think that you are being selfish at all. She has a car to drive so I don't think it should be a big deal. With buying a house and having a baby on the way the last thing you need is to have a new car and start making those payments too. I wouldn't sell your car because that's not fair. You have to have a hobby and if you don't you're going to go crazy.

Don't sell the car whatever you do. I would sit down with her and talk to her about it. Talk about your finances and payments and think about how your money situation is going to be like during the next few months to a year.

Oh yeah and make sure you tell her how you feel on the situation because often people not saying how they really feel is a reason why arguments start in the first place :thumbsups

Good luck!

who is this?
(runs out of the way because all the leg humpers will go nuts when they see a female posting)

 

[CMYZ28]

who is this?
(runs out of the way because all the leg humpers will go nuts when they see a female posting)

reiko's gf haha

 

[Crazzy_Al]

Buy my Explorer. That way, everyone wins.

 

[Jen]

reiko's gf haha

this is true :thumbsup:

 

[DetroitStyle]

It's absurd for her to expect you to sell everything to get her something fancy. Does she have any hobby stuff that SHE could see to help her get the SUV that she wants?

 

[82hatch]

I think you're being reasonable. Hell my wife's happy we got a Grand Cherokee that needs a motor-and she's talked me out of selling my car a few times because she knows how miserable I'd be.

 

[Swifster]

Kev, you rotten, selfish, bastard! SELL! SELL! SELL!!!!!!!

Actually I'd let her drive her Ranger until she's big enough that she can't fit behind the wheel. At that time, offer the same opportunity and watch her accept.

 

[glh_turbo22]

Thanks guys & ladies...some of you are a big help...others just really funny. Things have worked out for the best I think. The Ranger is gone, She's driving the F-150 and I drive the Mustang as my DD. We took some of the money from her truck and put it into my car to make it safer to drive and the rest went into the savings. We aggred that all the money I'm making on my side jobs is going into the savings to help with a down payment on a house and we will look into another vehicle for her after we get moved in. The mustang isn't going anywhere.

Thanks for your help MM.

Kevin

 

[lethalss]

If you sell the car now, you will never get one again, esp with a kid on the way. Stick to your guns.

 

[cbr_rachie]

Thanks guys & ladies...some of you are a big help...others just really funny. Things have worked out for the best I think. The Ranger is gone, She's driving the F-150 and I drive the Mustang as my DD. We took some of the money from her truck and put it into my car to make it safer to drive and the rest went into the savings. We aggred that all the money I'm making on my side jobs is going into the savings to help with a down payment on a house and we will look into another vehicle for her after we get moved in. The mustang isn't going anywhere.

Thanks for your help MM.

Kevin

i'm glad everything's worked out so far She was smart in agreeing with you to keep the stang....i'm sure she doesn't want to see you upset about losing your one and only toy! When my fiance starts going on about things he wants for his car, i just let him talk....even though more than half of the things he wants, he won't be getting anytime soon (and he knows it just as well as i do)....i can't kill his dreams with saying no and nagging him about it so when your wife starts talking about what she wants for the baby, just listen....it works for me, maybe it will work for you!