foncarelli
Club Member
ight people....
based on information I've gathered from people who've dated dancers, and the book ''How To Date A Stunning Stripper''
I've come up with a few tips for people like me (married ,sex driven, middle aged male) who want to date strippers
Money=no no: If you think you can buy her interest, you can't...the money and gifts will just get bigger and bigger until finally you give up on her and file for bankruptcy. From the moment you walk into the club, she sees you as aa customer, not a potential boyfriend..the objective is to maker her see you as an insider, not a customer.
Dress Good, Smell Nice: okay this one I can actually co-sign to, because I've been in this situation before...first time I went to a strip club, I went in my black dickie suit, nothing special. The girls weren't exactly crawling all over me..I mean, obviously to some extent they were, but not as much as I'd expected. The second time, I went to a strip club in Hollywood, dressed sharp as fuck, with a nice watch and dog tags (don't over do it with jewlery, be subtle) and the women were throwing themselves at me, even for strippers. Believe it or not, they do appreciate the effort..they'd prefer a hygienic, sharply dressed man over a sloppy,dirty, bum ass nigga..you may think ''oh,it doesn't make a difference, its all about the money to them'' but believe me, being sharply dressed goes a long way. (and that's for every woman, not just dancers)
If you bag,don't brag: okay I'm going to get a little ahead of myself here for a minute...if indeed you managed to get yourself a dancer...a few things...
She is not a ''stripper'', she is a ''dancer''...she does not want to be known as your stripper girlfriend, so don't go around showing off to your friends...if you do, just make sure she's not around, and if you tell your friends she's a stripper, remind them not to bring it up when she's around...she does not like explaining her occupation and why she's chosen that road, so be considerate, and mature, and don't show off, she's not a trophy chick.
To Be An Insider: a stripper's life is filled with many ups and downs, with no time for stability.
50 guys walk in and out of her life every night, most never to be seen again. How do you expect her to like you if your just as inconsistent?
That's why most guys who date dancers are DJs,Bouncers,and Bartenders that work at the same club, because the stripper gets an oppurtunity to see those people often, thus being able to get more familiar with them, and place trust within them.
I'm not saying you have to go there every week..but if you want a stripper to notice you, you have to become an insider.
How To Become An Insider/Seperate yourself from a customer:
-get in good with the following people
-bartender/waitress (usually female...flurt with them)
-I.D. checker at the front door (get in good with him/her and u'll be getting in for free)
-bouncers/floor managers
-DJ's
-house mom (older, retired stripper, who stays backstage and handles all the disputes, questions, conflicts, etc...also in charge of hygienal checks (''coochie check'')
^^^you may never see her out on the floor, but if you do, establish a friendly relationship...no one knows the dancers better than her
(tip well, make small talk, treat
em good and they will let you in on a few club secrets, i.e. whose single, whose bi, whose les, whose a slut, whose a druggie, whose interested in you,etc)
The No-No's of the club:-dont ask for ''favors''
-dont give the girls too much money (they'll think of you as a pathetic customer)
-dont stay by the tables (you look pathetic)
-dont stay close to the stage (you look like a hungry virgin, looking at a naked female for the first time)
instead, stay by the bar, that's where the regulars stay, that's where the girls walk in and out when they're not dancing (easier to strike up conversation) and they don't view you as pathetic cuz your not by the main stage drooling and coughing up money.
Overall Tips for the club:
-treat the women with respect
-dont pick favorites (you don't wanna be seen aas that guy...the ladies will talk..instead treat all of them the same and don't get involved in anyone's beef, cuz yes, the girls do beef with each other)
-compliment them, but not on the usual shit..you know how many times they get complimented on their ass and tits...compliment her eyes,hair,fingers, feet, etc...shit they wouldn't expect you to compliment them on
-when getting a lapdance, make a lot eye contact, offer to give them a little back rub while they do it, and say, ''you mind if I give you a little massage?, I know you girls work hard, and I appreciate the effort. Just giving you a little something back''
-dont fall into the trap and become a human ATM...let them realize they are not going to be able to suck hundreds out of you...if they stick around even after they realized they're only getting a certain amount of money..that's the girl to chase
Insider Tips: use the following words to make it seem like you know the in's aand out's of strip clubs
house mom: i've already explained her and her role..scroll up
-tip out: every dancer at the club must ''tip out'' to the DJ's,bouncers,and bartenders...you think all that money she makes goes into her pockets, your wrong...a lot of it goes to tip out, most of them make a lot of money but still go home semi-broke
-house fee: the girls must pay to dance there...house fees cover different things (make up room/costume designer,etc)...basically the shit that's accessable to them backstage is paid for out of pocket by them
-permit: you need a permit to strip, so your not going to other clubs and making money elsewhere...most clubs use ''permits'' as a contractional bind, so that girls can't go and run off and do other clubs.
-floor manager: nice word for bouncer, use it instead
My Advice:
when getting a lapdance, do what I said..with the whole talk about the massage and all..and then when she says ''okay'' or ''awww,thank you''..reply with
''yeah,no problem...one of my last exes, she was a dancer...I remember her always complaining about how hard she works and most of it was for nothing, because of tip out and whatnot...so I know you girls are really making an effort to come here and maintain a perky attitude and smile with strangers night after night, and I really appreciate it'
you don't need to say it exaactly like that, but make sure to mention ''tip out'', and the fact that one of ur exes was a dancer..this tells her
1.) wow he knows some of our lingo..he's an insider
2.) wow he's dated one of us before..most likely he's open-minded, and can handle our crazy lifestyles, and doesn't judge us
laater on, if this thread does good..I'll post advice for when your actually dating a stripper
imp2:
based on information I've gathered from people who've dated dancers, and the book ''How To Date A Stunning Stripper''
I've come up with a few tips for people like me (married ,sex driven, middle aged male) who want to date strippers
Money=no no: If you think you can buy her interest, you can't...the money and gifts will just get bigger and bigger until finally you give up on her and file for bankruptcy. From the moment you walk into the club, she sees you as aa customer, not a potential boyfriend..the objective is to maker her see you as an insider, not a customer.
Dress Good, Smell Nice: okay this one I can actually co-sign to, because I've been in this situation before...first time I went to a strip club, I went in my black dickie suit, nothing special. The girls weren't exactly crawling all over me..I mean, obviously to some extent they were, but not as much as I'd expected. The second time, I went to a strip club in Hollywood, dressed sharp as fuck, with a nice watch and dog tags (don't over do it with jewlery, be subtle) and the women were throwing themselves at me, even for strippers. Believe it or not, they do appreciate the effort..they'd prefer a hygienic, sharply dressed man over a sloppy,dirty, bum ass nigga..you may think ''oh,it doesn't make a difference, its all about the money to them'' but believe me, being sharply dressed goes a long way. (and that's for every woman, not just dancers)
If you bag,don't brag: okay I'm going to get a little ahead of myself here for a minute...if indeed you managed to get yourself a dancer...a few things...
She is not a ''stripper'', she is a ''dancer''...she does not want to be known as your stripper girlfriend, so don't go around showing off to your friends...if you do, just make sure she's not around, and if you tell your friends she's a stripper, remind them not to bring it up when she's around...she does not like explaining her occupation and why she's chosen that road, so be considerate, and mature, and don't show off, she's not a trophy chick.
To Be An Insider: a stripper's life is filled with many ups and downs, with no time for stability.
50 guys walk in and out of her life every night, most never to be seen again. How do you expect her to like you if your just as inconsistent?
That's why most guys who date dancers are DJs,Bouncers,and Bartenders that work at the same club, because the stripper gets an oppurtunity to see those people often, thus being able to get more familiar with them, and place trust within them.
I'm not saying you have to go there every week..but if you want a stripper to notice you, you have to become an insider.
How To Become An Insider/Seperate yourself from a customer:
-get in good with the following people
-bartender/waitress (usually female...flurt with them)
-I.D. checker at the front door (get in good with him/her and u'll be getting in for free)
-bouncers/floor managers
-DJ's
-house mom (older, retired stripper, who stays backstage and handles all the disputes, questions, conflicts, etc...also in charge of hygienal checks (''coochie check'')
^^^you may never see her out on the floor, but if you do, establish a friendly relationship...no one knows the dancers better than her
(tip well, make small talk, treat
em good and they will let you in on a few club secrets, i.e. whose single, whose bi, whose les, whose a slut, whose a druggie, whose interested in you,etc)
The No-No's of the club:-dont ask for ''favors''
-dont give the girls too much money (they'll think of you as a pathetic customer)
-dont stay by the tables (you look pathetic)
-dont stay close to the stage (you look like a hungry virgin, looking at a naked female for the first time)
instead, stay by the bar, that's where the regulars stay, that's where the girls walk in and out when they're not dancing (easier to strike up conversation) and they don't view you as pathetic cuz your not by the main stage drooling and coughing up money.
Overall Tips for the club:
-treat the women with respect
-dont pick favorites (you don't wanna be seen aas that guy...the ladies will talk..instead treat all of them the same and don't get involved in anyone's beef, cuz yes, the girls do beef with each other)
-compliment them, but not on the usual shit..you know how many times they get complimented on their ass and tits...compliment her eyes,hair,fingers, feet, etc...shit they wouldn't expect you to compliment them on
-when getting a lapdance, make a lot eye contact, offer to give them a little back rub while they do it, and say, ''you mind if I give you a little massage?, I know you girls work hard, and I appreciate the effort. Just giving you a little something back''
-dont fall into the trap and become a human ATM...let them realize they are not going to be able to suck hundreds out of you...if they stick around even after they realized they're only getting a certain amount of money..that's the girl to chase
Insider Tips: use the following words to make it seem like you know the in's aand out's of strip clubs
house mom: i've already explained her and her role..scroll up
-tip out: every dancer at the club must ''tip out'' to the DJ's,bouncers,and bartenders...you think all that money she makes goes into her pockets, your wrong...a lot of it goes to tip out, most of them make a lot of money but still go home semi-broke
-house fee: the girls must pay to dance there...house fees cover different things (make up room/costume designer,etc)...basically the shit that's accessable to them backstage is paid for out of pocket by them
-permit: you need a permit to strip, so your not going to other clubs and making money elsewhere...most clubs use ''permits'' as a contractional bind, so that girls can't go and run off and do other clubs.
-floor manager: nice word for bouncer, use it instead
My Advice:
when getting a lapdance, do what I said..with the whole talk about the massage and all..and then when she says ''okay'' or ''awww,thank you''..reply with
''yeah,no problem...one of my last exes, she was a dancer...I remember her always complaining about how hard she works and most of it was for nothing, because of tip out and whatnot...so I know you girls are really making an effort to come here and maintain a perky attitude and smile with strangers night after night, and I really appreciate it'
you don't need to say it exaactly like that, but make sure to mention ''tip out'', and the fact that one of ur exes was a dancer..this tells her
1.) wow he knows some of our lingo..he's an insider
2.) wow he's dated one of us before..most likely he's open-minded, and can handle our crazy lifestyles, and doesn't judge us
laater on, if this thread does good..I'll post advice for when your actually dating a stripper
imp2:
